Fear

What is Fear: An unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.

Some might think that a positive person doesn’t feel fear…

WRONG!!! 

Totally wrong!

A positive person is positive because he/she found a way to overcome fear. Overcome, not hide or act as fear wasn’t there… because fear is always present.

“When fear and doubtful thoughts pop in my head I just push it away, listening to music, doing something I like, I try anything to avoid fear thoughts….” This is what I read in the last book about the fear I read and, yeah it worked at the beginning but then “fear” was there again.

I got very upset, I thought that I wasn’t strong enough to control my mind…

For a long period, I even decided that maybe this positive thingy just didn’t work for me…

I was wrong positivity or having positive thought or better living in a positive way, works for everybody, it improves everybody’s life.

So why wasn’t positivity helping me?

Then I realised that it wasn’t me (not) being strong enough it was just that with me that method of overcoming fear and doubt wasn’t right, for me it wasn’t working.

For me trying not to think about ‘Fear” by distracting my mind with something else didn’t work, we are different (thank goodness) so what works for others might not work for you or for me and vice versa. One we agree: “fear” is not good. We all agree that self-doubt is not good and so on…

What we need to do is to find the way that works better for us cause at the end of the day life and living is nothing else but constant learning, we need to find out what works for us individually.

This is what works for me: when I feel that “fear” and doubt arrives I just face it! I meditate and concentrate on what made this feeling emerge, I write about it and analyse my fear, something like the math problems we use to do during school. I question my fears and doubts and analyse them.

What? How? Why? and When?

For each question, I write the answer and try to get deep in my feelings to understand the cause, I analyse every accept of that feeling breaking it down to try to understand why I feel like that. I try to understand the heart of that fear, what caused that fear… I analyse what self-doubts that fear is bringing me, I try to understand if it’s a new fear or a new one. I write everything down, every emotion and feeling even the most painful and ridiculous…

Now is everything on paper, I can see it there black on white is not a monster,  just words on paper they have no power over me.

I see it.

I can go on even having to carry you!

I just accept and say: “hey good you are here, I know you are not going anywhere so let’s do it together”

During this process, my mind somehow gets lighter and lighter and what seemed to be too much for me suddenly doesn’t mean anything. They were just useless thoughts.

Finally, when I see my fears and doubts on paper I can see that I’m strong!

“Fear” is something that will always accompany us, if you think about it is something that saves our life many times what it cannot do though is limit us. So I thank the Universe for making go through this feeling, I thank the Universe for making me learn from my fears and make me stronger.

After accepting my feeling I can now listen to music and enjoy it (for example), now I can leave everything behind and concentrate on my positive thinking, on my visualisation or whatever else I must or want to do.

A curious is that I never go back to read what I wrote… it’s there, in the past where it belongs… Maybe if one day I’ll go back to read it I’ll find out that I write over and over the same things… Who knows… What I know is that this makes me feel better, this works for me.

We are Humans fear and self-doubts will always be part of our life… Well, when this happens just write it down…

Don’t hide it…

Don’t try to control yourself…

Let it flow…

Let it come all out…

Cry if you need to…

Lough at your fears…

Thank them…

Say Good-Bye to them…

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Let us know how you overcome fear and self-doubt?

Lucy